I exercise, and I eat well – yet I still DON’T SEE RESULTS!
First question – what results are you after?
Second: Do they align with what you are doing?
Third: Do they align with what you do 24/7/365?
These are the three biggest questions you can ask yourself right now when it comes to the overall lifestyle that you are currently choosing to live. By taking a deeper dive into these questions, you may come to some harsh realizations that you did not want to accept, or you may come out completely “woke” to a different viewpoint.
What Results Are You After?
9 out of 10 people are going to start with “weight loss” as their answer. That’s a fact.
I encourage people to dive deeper. Weight loss could be accomplished just taking a giant dump, or chopping off a limb. Yet, we still give SO MUCH power to that silly little number on the scale.
“Hi, my name is Mike, and I lost .8 pounds in a year – sign up to work with me :)”
Not the most impressive sales pitch, huh?
Good thing “weight loss” wasn’t my goal.
My goal was to add muscle mass without putting on fat while being able to cut back to 3 days of lifting per week, enjoying more time with my family, and building my business. Now that is a specific goal!
If you look closely at the weight trends you can see when I was doing a small “massing” phase, and when I was doing a small “cut” phase…but thats beside the point. The point is – what are your REAL goals, that are not confined to a number on the scale.
Sure, you may have 50 pounds of body fat to lose, but I still want you to dig deeper than “lose weight” as a goal. Figure out why that 50 pounds needs to come off, and also find some other parameters to measure, because the weight will drive you nuts.
- Body Fat %
- Performance Numbers
- Fit of Clothes
- Reduction in Medications
- Blood markers
These things can all provide MUCH more insight than a number on the scale.
Do Your Desired Results Align with Your Current Nutrition and Training?
If I wanted to get super strong in the deadlift, it wouldn’t make much sense to train like a marathon runner.
If I wanted to lose a bunch of body fat, but keep all my muscle and stay “jacked” looking, it wouldn’t make much sense to go on a starvation diet.
There is much more to “diet and exercise” than eat less – exercise more, or eat more – exercise less.
It takes TIME to build muscle, and patience (or high dose anabolic steroids). It takes time to rebuild a broken metabolism.
If you want to maximize your muscle-building potential, training once per week will not cut it.
If you want to lose maximal bodyfat, eating 1000 calories per day will not end well.
If you want to become a more confident version of yourself and create a newfound level of happiness – losing body fat and looking sexy might not cut it…
We give these misconceived images to our goals and imagine that once we are at our arbitrary goal, we will find our result (leanness, happiness, etc.) However, we often miss the mark on taking the best path to those goals AND enjoying the journey.
If you are not happy, fat loss won’t make you happy.
If you are not confident, building muscle won’t make you confident.
They may help, but to get these kinds of results you must dive deeper, seek out different avenues to work on, and stop thinking that your body determines your persona.
Do Your Desired Results Align with What You Do 24/7/365??
No, this doesn’t mean that you need to obsess over diet and exercise all day, every day. Quite the opposite.
You become a walking version and representation of what you do on average, over and over again.
Maybe you crush it in the gym 4 times per week and follow a rigid diet 4 days per week…
But Friday-Sunday you party hard, booze it up, become sleep-deprived, and eat so much hangover food that you feel like Jabba the Hutt.
You likely are not going to become a bikini model, or be mistaken for Pre-Endgame Thor any time soon.
A) Trains, Eats Well, Repeats. B) Parties Hard 7 Days Per Week
This even goes far beyond diet and exercise. What are you sleep habits like, stress levels like, social interactions, and aspirations to a higher purpose or meaning in life?
Yes, having your health and taking care of your body is one of the most important things you can do, because, without that, you probably won’t be able to do all the other things you enjoy. BUT it is NOT the ONLY important thing in your life – or it shouldn’t be.
Back to my goal – add muscle mass without putting on fat while being able to cut back to 3 days of lifting per week, enjoying more time with my family, and building my business.
I didn’t want to live at the gym, or not be able to play with my daughter and wife because “daddy has to train” – and I want to give my family a great life, so continuing to grow the business was important to me without adding tremendous extra hours “at work”.
I can proudly say that I did all of the above, and looking back on the year…did it pretty damn well.
This is over the course of 8 months…not 8 weeks. Time is important my friends.
Goals and results around your body and health are often accomplished more by what you do outside of the gym than what you do in the gym. Read this again.
Even if you train hard 7 hours per week. That leaves 161 other hours for you to do things that either support your goals or go against them.
This can include so many things outside of food and exercise – so just make sure that your lifestyle aligns overall with what you want to accomplish – and make sure you know what you really want to accomplish.